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Grieving

This is a hard post to write. As I’m writing it I’m not even sure if I will even post it. And I’m sorry if I’m all over the place because of it. But this week my family is suffering from loss. My little cousin, who is one years old, was shot and has passed away. I won’t go into the details, but it is just tearing us all apart.

Sweet girl 💕

Death. It’s hard even for the strongest of people. Even when you have time to grasp it. But for something like this, when it’s sudden. When it’s someone so young. It’s tragic. I wish we could stop it. Turn back time. Keep it from happening.

I am so heartbroken over this news. She was so young. She had so much life to live. Such a happy and precious soul. I’m heartbroken because I still haven’t had the chance to meet this cousin in person. Our family is large and are still trying to navigate family gatherings with COVID. I’m heartbroken because of all of the memories that have been snatch from our family.

She was only a few months younger than my daughter, and they are the only girls in this age group in our family currently. With Thanksgiving just right around the corner, I was imagining them meeting for the first time. And seeing them playing together, making mischief. Both girls have very similar personalities, so I just knew they were going to be instant best friend cousins.

I know this is so selfish to think. Or maybe it’s not. Maybe it’s just part of grieving. Maybe it’s what grieving is?

But I’m not thinking of just me. My whole family. We’re all grieving those missed moments. The ones in the past. The ones in the future.

I can only imagine (and I know that I still probably can’t even guess to what extent) what my cousin, the baby’s mom, is going through. She lost her child. Her only daughter. She is having to lay her baby to rest. And on top of that, she’s being charged with man slaughter. Which is resulting in all of her children being taken from her.

My aunt is taking in the three surviving children. Grieving the loss of her granddaughter. Processing all that happened; leading up to the event and the current events. All the mental, physical, and financial adjustments that goes along with taking in three additional children.

For my aunt, for my family, I want to help raise some funds to help. If you’re able, I am holding a fundraiser to help with the funeral cost.

Did you know:

The average funeral cost is between $7,000 and $9,000, with the median cost being $7,360.

https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/average-funeral-cost-by-state

Any remaining will go to my aunt and the three boys. I’m not sure what their needs are at this time as this is all still pretty sudden.

What you get: Boxed set of 30 (Holiday Card Collection Box includes 50) beautifully embellished cards with matching envelopes for $30+ taxes. If you are local, I will deliver the boxes to you in person for free. But if you prefer to have them shipped, they will be shipped in a flat rate box for an additional $16.10.

What the family gets: $16 per box sold. This is including my commission.

My goal is to sell 100 boxes, that will give the family $1,600 toward the cost. Can you help me reach this goal?

Use the order form to select which box(es) you would like.
Ordering and payments are required by Friday, October 14, 2022.

Other ways to support:

  • Buy books
    • All commission (25%) will go towards the cost.
  • Donate money
    • All money will go towards the cost.

2022 For Sale

At the end of every year, I like to go through all of our things to get rid of stuff we have outgrown. This allows us the space to start the year fresh. If something was gentle used (or just still in great shape), I love to past it on to someone else. This year is even more so as I am in the process of moving and needing to downsize.

If you like something, please provide me with your offer. Please be reasonable on the offer as most items are still in great shape. Some items are lightly used.

I have videos of the each item to show the current condition. I am not speaking in the videos, so no need for audio. Most Al items are also linked to a retail seller to be able to compare condition and see current price. Local pick up only in DFW, TX.

No smoker. 1 cat. Some items have been in apartment outside storage.

4 in 1 Baby Walker and Activity Table
Baby Activity Cube (needs new batteries; 2 AAA)
Disney Peg Puzzles
Wiggle and Crawl Ball #1 (needs batteries; 3 AA)
Wiggle and Crawl Ball #2 (needs batteries; 3 AA)
Vtech Tiny Touch Tablet (needs batteries)
Infant to Toddler Rocker
Linkimals (Sloth, Moose, Otter, Panda, Hedgehog)
Baby Trend Nexton Travel System (used 6 months, no accidents, non-smoking)
Musical Flower with Suction Cup
Summer 4-in-1 Super Seat (pink) (missing ball, will continue to look for it)

Grocery Shopping with Toddlers Idea

We love to go to the store in this house. It gives us something to do, walk around, get food and maybe even a toy or two. And some stores have cool carts for kids.

I saw this awesome idea and thought it would be nice to share with you all:

A VISUAL SHOPPING LIST!

https://www.etsy.com/no-en/listing/193418361/instant-download-my-shopping-list
(not my store or image)

You can search the web for some premade one or make them yourself using Word and clip art. These can be used in several different ways.

  • Flashcards
    • Cut them into individual cards, laminate them, hole punch the corner and put on a ring. Keep them in the car for when you go to the store.
    • Bonus idea: Have a flash card set with numbers to teach quantity.
  • Page
    • Keep it on one sheet of paper, also laminate so it doesn’t get wet or crumpled, then point or use a dry erase marker to show which items are needed. Can also use the marker to write how many items are needed.
  • Craft project
    • Draw your own! Have the kids join in! This can be done each time or initially.
  • Digital

Have you used visual grocery list before? If so, tell me about it in the comments. Was there something that worked good or did it all go badly?!

Toddler Style

Ever seen a toddler wearing PJs and rain boots in 80° F weather. Just know that it’s most likely not because the parent is slacking, and more likely that they’re allowing their child to express or dress themselves (or just don’t have time for the fight). What harm is it to fight this decision anyways? Of course if it was extremely hot or cold, I would ensure we had proper attire. But we were just heading out to pick up lunch in mild weather.

And on the other side, what benefits are there for them?

  • Dressing skills
  • Confidence
  • Self awareness
  • Motor skills
  • Independence

Be careful though, independent and confident toddlers are a force to be reckoned with…

Now that hair… that’s a whole other story…

Weekend with Dad

Alivia was with her dad this weekend. And even though I miss her terribly while she is away, I make the most of time “free” time. Usually doing too much. This weekend I filled it with family. Playing lots of games.

Saturday I played Phase 10 with my niece their (preferred pronoun) boyfriend. My 6 year old nephew joined in for a few hands. Luckily her got distracted and moved on because he had some amazing beginners luck that may have had him beating us all.

Sunday I spent the morning at Church learning about Resilient Hope, I linked the service below if you would like to watch. I’m still blown away by the claim that 1 in 3 women have been domestically abused #metoo.

Dallas Bible Church Worship Service: Resilient Hope – A Study of 1 Peter

After church I went to play another game of Phase 10, but with my grandmother this time. We followed up with a game of checkers. Then it was time to get my sweet girl and head home.

Play Dough

Play dough is definitely one oh those things that every kid enjoys at some point in their life. As a parent, I get so nervous breaking it out since we have carpet all throughout the apartment. But it has so many good benefits! So I break it out anytime asked.

This is one of those activities that seem so simple and easy to look over as a great educational tool, even for early ages. All you have to do is open up the container and put it in front of the child and they’ll be entertained for hours! But did you know that its also doing the following:

  • Helping build fine motor skills
    • Those hands and finger are having to move around to mold the clay. I could especially see this with Alivia just trying to learn how to roll the dough into circles or flatten it out.
  • Hand-eye coordination
    • We didn’t just pick up play dough, we got a set that came with “cookie” cutters, a rolling pin, and scissors. All of these tools require you to focus on manipulating the materials to fit your ideas.
  • Encourages creativity and imagination
    • What can you make with play dough? Well, just about anything. Balls, food, buildings, animals, the list goes on and on. You can use molds or just free hand. I think this is especially important for young children as a lot of times we push them to learn things a certain way (how to write, how to read, how to count, etc.) but this, well, they can do it how ever hey please.
    • Bonus: Since there is no right or wrong way to play with the dough, it helps to build their self esteem!
  • Educational
    • Play dough comes in all colors. Some even come in different scents. And as you’re making things you can add in learning numbers, animals, shapes, sizes, and so much more. If you make the dough from scratch, they can learn about measurements and science; how different ingredients react and change when added together. We found a Balance Scale made out of wood at Target for $3 and we put different amount of dough on to each scale, learning about weight.
  • Non-screen playtime
    • It’s 2022. Technology is so ingrained in everything we do. And I for one am a big lover of it. I love all of the conveniences that it brings to my life. There is a lot of good that comes with it, but there is also a lot of bad. Kids need to be bored at times, truthfully we all do. It allows for our brains to rest and come up with new ideas. It allows for us to be mindful. And playing with play dough helps a kid to slow down, focus, and even express themselves.
  • Social
    • With it being just Alivia and I a majority of the time, I really try to focus of our social skills to ensure they aren’t lacking. When we’re playing together, I give us only enough tools that we have to share them and take turns. Instilling phrases such as please, may I, it’s your turn, can I have a turn, give me x minute(s)… And Alivia gets so many compliments when we are in group settings, because she uses those skills with others.
  • Mental Health
    • Squeezing the dough. Thinking. Breathing. Controlling the shape of the dough. These are things that kids are doing while playing with play dough.
      • When the squeeze the dough, it’s the same benefits as if you were to squeeze a stress ball.
      • They’re able to think. Think about the task at hand. Maybe escape some of their stresses of things they can not control, but focus on the task of something that they can’t or maybe they do want to think on something else, and this allows them to keep their hands busy.
      • Breathing. They’re able to slow down. Alivia loves to run around. She is such a busy body. But she sat down while playing. Allowing her body to relax, heart beat and breath relaxing too.
      • Controlling the shape. Young children are know to have big emotions. And it’s pretty known that it’s because they’re learning about the world and are easy to resort to tantrums due to feeling no control. Which is completely understandable. However, this isn’t behavior to encourage. Playing with play dough gives them an outlet to get out frustration. And it also gives them someing they can feel in control of.

What is your favorite thing to make with play dough?

Flashlight

Oh the joys of a flashlight. I really just don’t know why a flashlight is so exciting. But I remember loving to play with one as a child, and Alivia is finding that same joy now.

We found this cute little flashlight at Target for $3. It comes with three projector pieces that will show a picture on the wall. We’ve used it for a walk outside in the dark (and during the day 🫣) and reading stories.

Our Shine-A-Light series is so perfect for this. We read a page then lifted it and shone the light on the other side of the page so we can see hidden pictures. Alivia loved it, especially when we found a butterfly 🦋 hiding behind a leaf in the Secrets of the Rain Forest book. She is obsessed with butterflies I swear, always flying around pretending to be one.

There are 38 books with English and Spanish options.

What are fun games or activities you have played with a flashlight?

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